It was about 2:00 p.m. when my high school bus left the school without me.
Supposedly, there was something my crush had to ask me, and my friends had insisted that I miss my bus so he and I could talk.
Hm. What in the world could this be about?
Right after my husband asked me out, he muttered the words, “Uh, it’s 2:12”. That’s right. He told me what time it was.
So, that’s how we know the exact day and time that our relationship started. And I love that.
This year marks 16 years with my husband. We’ve been married for 7 of those years. We’ve officially spent more than half of our lives together.
I would be lying if I didn’t say that the question of whether we’d one day get married didn’t cross my mind on the day my husband asked me to be his girlfriend. Like many young relationships, you always wonder, even if it’s only for a second, how long the two of you will last.
I distinctly remember not caring.
I know that sounds awful, but I wasn’t thinking about how long we would date. I was happy and that was all that mattered.
I think this outlook can be helpful when in a relationship. Putting timelines or expectations on what comes next in a relationship can cause stress and potentially lead to disappointment.
Was I ready to get married to my husband at 2:12 p.m. that day? Absolutely not. If you’re not ready for the next milestone in a relationship, try not to put a timeline on it.
Relationships grow organically. Yes, they take work, effort, patience, and communication, but they grow if they are meant to grow. Some grow strong quickly, while others take time to develop. Nevertheless, milestones will happen on their own and when both of you are ready.
My husband and I started dating when we were 15. We got married when we were 24. Some people have asked me why we didn’t get married sooner. My answer is, that’s not the direction life took us.
To all couples, enjoy your time together. Learn from each other, make memories, and love each other. Relationships come with stress of their own, so try not to add to it with things you cannot fully control.
If you have hopes for your relationship, communicate them, but remember to be patient. There are two of you on this team.
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It’s difficult to not always be looking forward to what’s next. Having ambition and drive are strong qualities, but we also have to remember to slow down and embrace what we have.
Life takes many twists and turns and they’re not always what you expect, so try to make the most of the present. I was happy that day at 2:12 p.m. and that was all that mattered. The rest was for us to figure out together with time.
To my husband, thank you for choosing to spend more than half of your life with me. It’s 9:50 p.m.
What a lovely story, Laura!
We don’t have an exact hour and minute to remember, but we do celebrate day 2 of every month.
Roger and I had known each other for over 15 years, we were both married. Over the years, I got divorced and he, unfortunately, became a widower. We were occasional coworkers and there had always been a connection. One day, he showed up after a few months of not working with me and I saw him differently. I asked him “what did you do?” and he said “I met someone”… I had never considered anything with him before, but that day my spontaneous thought was “sh**, I’ve lost my opportunity”.
That relationship didn’t work out and a few months later we dated to have a walk and cry together… that happened 4 years ago and we hope and work to share the rest of our lives together.
PS: To Roger, I love you. I’ts October, 2
Berta, what a love story! Sometimes life takes twists and turns we never expect. I’m so happy you both found each other ❤️